Danville woman charged with leaving infants in car while shopping Schools & Kids, posted by Editor, Danville Weekly Online, on Feb 14, 2012 at 5:03 pm
A Danville woman who faces felony child endangerment in connection with leaving her two infant twins in a car last week at Stoneridge Shopping Center may have done the same thing previously. "There is some indication this has happened before," said Pleasanton police Sgt. Kurt Schlehuber.
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Posted by Danville mom of 3, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 7:10 am
I'm glad a good Samaritan was able to do the right thing. I was at Target San Ramon one hot summer day and saw 2 small children "sleeping" in the car. It was heart wrenching b/c at the time, I was not sure if they were sleeping or dead. The mom came out (w/ several bags) a short while later - before the police arrived - and ripped me a new one for not minding my own business. When I told her I couldn't tell if her kids were alive or not, which was very conceding, she got even more irate. Some parents just don't get it.
Posted by Carolyn, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 7:50 am
You are so completely on point, Danville mom of 3. This generation of parents has really become the, "it's all about me" group and it is disgusting! Obviously there are exceptions to it, but Alyson from above seems like she is in a bubble not looking around and seeing what is going on around her, and I will lay odds that she has even done some typical Blackhawk mother things. The College Nannies business in Blackhawk Plaza is flourishing and so is the plastic surgery business. Selfishness and vanity are running rampant. There are so many businesses devoted to taking care of children since parents seem too busy to do their job. I ,too, ran into a similar situation to the Target one at the Blackhawk Safeway and the Blackhawk mom (knew her, she didn't know me until then) came out with a filled shopping cart, I ripped into her and unfortunately, the police hadn't arrived before she left. Although since I knew who she was, I could give them her name.
Posted by William, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 8:23 am
How ironic that the Turkish word for Nejat is "savior". We all need to be good samaritans and report anything like this we see. Things like this make me wish we had to have a license to have children. Lose your license, lose your kids.
Posted by Dale, a resident of the Alamo neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 8:26 am
In public schools----we call these parents "breeders." it is unrelated to socio economics--but there ARE parents and there are breeders. Most breeders use the progressive free gov schools-----then we move onto what many kids become---PST's---public school trash=occupy types.
Posted by Christine, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 8:42 am
First of all, let's not crucify this woman before we have all the details. Have any of you heard of post-partum depression? And she has twins for pete's sake. Can't any of you (besides Alyson) show some compassion until we know all the facts? Honestly!
Posted by Alyson Colton, a resident of the Blackhawk neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 9:00 am
Carolyn ... I can't believe that I am actually responding to your ignorant rant. I know who I am and how I have conducted myself as a parent. What I don't think is fair is that you are "generalizing" about one community in our midst. Are there parents who are so selfish that they put themselves before their own children? YES! However, they are not residing exclusively behind the gates of Blackhawk. Unfortunately, they are everywhere ... Even in YOUR neighborhood! So, please stop generalizing; it is not fair. You also have no clue what the demographics are of the parents who use "Tutors and Nannies", nor their reasons for using these services.. So please, take your negative energy and turn it into something positive today.
Posted by Real Person, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 9:03 am
I agree that there are people in the Blackhawk area and (other upscale neighborhoods) who are very self centered and don't really care about others, but you can't make that generalization about everyone in that area. For every plastic, implanted person you can find an unselfish real person and good parent. There are people in the area that aren't actually that rich but have huge mortgages and car payments, etc. It's all for show and they act like they are above everyone else. There are also people with money who don't flaunt it who are nice humans and who care about the world around them and not just themselves.
All people regardless of wealth can make foolish and selfish decisions that endanger their children or themselves (think drinking or cell phone driving and other distractions)
You can't stop someone from being ignorant and selfish no matter where they live, but thank goodness for those people that take notice, call the police and do the right thing! I applaud that woman who called to protect those infants and those above who have also done so because they may have saved a life.
Posted by Weary Danvillian, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 9:22 am
Dear Christine: Yes, we have heard of postpartum depression; it is just that those unfortunate women do not usually have the energy to drive to Stoneridge to shop. The primary concern here is for the 11 week old infants left in the car. It has been unusually warm in our valley this winter, and babies less than 3 months old could easily succumb to these environmental factors, as well as choking.
Let's show concern for these children, especially since the Pleasanton police are investigating the information that this mother had done the same thing (leaving the babies in the car) previously.
Posted by Danville Mom, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 9:56 am
As usual, the comments have gotten off task..... I too agree that we cannot generalize about the parents in Blackhawk. That is a very ignorant thing to do. (I do not live in Blackhawk)
Thank goodness that the children are safe and there was someone who did a job well done as a good Samaritan. Who knows what was going on in this mother's mind but it certainly wasn't the safety/care of her children. Unfortunately, the Danville Express printed this story with a lot of information missing. DE, please get more thorough stories since in our little hamlet of Danville/Blackhawk/Alamo/Diablo rumors fly faster than Superman as well as stupid and irrelevant accusations.
Posted by Renee, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 10:30 am
Bottom line....DO NOT LEAVE CHILDREN, THE ELDERLY or YOUR PETS in a car for ANY length of time!! My husband who travels to many areas for work has called the Police MANY times for children or pets left in a locked car! He has called from Castro Valley, Berkeley, Oakland, Emeryville, Napa, Corte Madera and the huge list goes on (he works for a food company and calls on Grocery stores). So it happens EVERYWHERE! The postpartum idea is stretching it...she thought she would "just run in" thank goodness for a person who took charge of a potentially UGLY situation...kudos!! Take a friend, parent or HOW ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE NEXT TIME....your children and YOU will be much better for it!!
Posted by Derek, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 10:55 am
Danville Mom of 3:
You absolutely did the right thing, and it was never a question of "whose business is it". Anyone who did not call the police in your situation would have to be a true scumbag. I would have ripped this poor excuse for a mother three new ones, and explained that her license plate would be forever burned into my memory. And that any time I saw her vehicle parked anywhere, I would be checking to see if her kids were inside.
I too, don't want to get off topic, but I certainly do see more self-centered narcissistic people every time I drive into the Blackhawk Plaza or even the Safeway parking lot in Alamo, and it does relate to this story. More than once I've nearly been run over by some Mercedes-driving fool.
I hope Mrs. Nejat gets to visit a jail cell sometime soon, and that a family who actually wants kids can adopt her children. What would this lunatic have done if she had returned to her car to find the kids gone? Make up some wild story about how two minority guys kidnapped them at gunpoint?
As far as you go Christine, I can only hope you were making a weird joke by your comment.
Posted by Andrea, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 12:38 pm
I have some lovely and kind friends in Blackhawk, kudos to those who spoke out against stereotyping. You are no better than those prejudiced against those of a different color if you judge people based on how much money they have, be they rich or poor.
It was refreshing to hear Christine's perspective on withholding judgement until we have all of the facts, but scary to see how few share this view. Yes, leaving children in the car to go shopping is wrong. Yes, this woman needs some help...but to have her children taken away from her? That's extreme.
As has been said by one wiser than I, get rid of the log in your own eye before you try and remove the speck in your (Danville) neighbor's.
Posted by Eileen Johnson, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 1:40 pm
Carolyn, this was a terrible thing that happened to those children and as a concerned mother I can not imagine how anyone could possibly think leaving children unattended in their vehicle is safe. This woman should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. Iím very happy that a concerned parent intervened and the children were not hurt. At least not physically... I donít think this issue is systemic to Blackhawk and curious why you obviously have a problem with people living in that community. How sad that you hide behind anonymity and cast your poison pen with such generalizations and prejudice against all mothers in Blackhawk.
Posted by Oh no way, a resident of the Blackhawk neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 1:49 pm
I live in Blackhawk and I guarantee you that I am no way like those people. My family is fortunate to own a home here but we are simple people, we don't have the expensive cars, my children do not drive BMW's, they dont buy designer clothes ( well maybe sometimes) I actually shop at Target, Macy's and TJ Maxx. I am a working mom and have hired sitters in the past. Although tempting at times I have never left my children in any place without supervision its just common sense. Also, we can not generalize the situation because I am sure that there have been other people who have done the same and are not as fortunate as this particular family so it has nothing to do with being into themselves it has to do with just being ignorant and ignorance comes in all shapes and sizes, nationalities and social status. I do hope that these children are taken from this mother, it does not seem as if she deserves to have them especially since she thought that leaving them to shop was ok in the first place.
I wonder what the husband/father thinks of his wife at this point? I would throw her ass out the door.
im actually surprised no one who knows this family has come to her rescue.
Posted by Catherine, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 2:24 pm
I am really amazed there are so many of you who are really clueless on the behaviors of many Blackhawk mothers. This mother did something that was against the law and obviously just thought she wouldn't get caught! Those poor children having a mother like that. After living in one of the communities nestled around Blackhawk and being in organizations and on boards for the last 20 years where I have dealt with them, Carolyn really isn't too far off with her thoughts. Some of them even feel that because they donated more than someone else, that they should be afforded special treatment because of it - NO JOKE! They also don't think the rules apply to them which I could give many examples of from the various organizations I have been a part of. And yes, it is the BLACKHAWK mothers that make these requests as I do know where they live! I am not saying all the mothers that live there are like that, but there are enough of to have a "Typical Blackhawk Mother" moniker.
And to those who donít think the book ought to be thrown at this mother, she lied about ducking in to use the restroom quickly until she was pressed by the police (with video surveillance) and admitted that she was returning some items to the store. Really, a return is worth your childrenísí lives. They really should be taken away from herÖ
Posted by Annonymous, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 15, 2012 at 10:26 pm
As the wife a police detective, these things happen across all socio economic boundaries. Its an issue that should not be made light of nor ignored, contacting the police is the correct thing to do. As a rule, never ever leave small children, animals or the elderly alone in a car in the heat or extreme cold. No need to make an issue of communities, towns, ethnicity or age.
Posted by Me, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 16, 2012 at 8:13 am
Rule out post-partum, the woman is not the biological mother. I get that she needed a break - easy to reason - but she needed to utilize the resources out there who can help. I've paid a sitter $18/hr to help w my 3 children. Tell me she couldn't afford to do the same.
Posted by Diane, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 17, 2012 at 3:50 pm
@Catherine, that's a huge axe you are grinding. Maybe you and Caroline were separated at birth.
What the heck does her baby registry have to do with anything? If she registers for high end gifts, she is a bad person and will abuse her children? Or does is suggest some envy on the part of those with the time on their hands to search a baby registry (or multiple registries) for someone they don't even know?
Get a grip. Abusive and neglectful parents come from all socio-economic backgrounds. Wonderful, nurturing parents also come from all socio-economic backgrounds. This woman is obviously a bad parent - and would still be a bad parent if she lived in a less affluent community.
Posted by Diane, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 17, 2012 at 10:11 pm
@Ironic???? - I believe you have much time on your hands. How you spend it is truly up to you. I just can't imagine looking up baby registry at not one but two different stores for someone I didn't even know in order to make a point.
But, your point is well taken - she asked for a monitor and is not watching over her kids. Agreed.
Posted by Catherine, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 18, 2012 at 2:09 pm
@ Diane - Apparently you don't know how to read! They were all statements of factual incidents, not a feeling about many of those mothers. With your comments, I can only guess that you are one of those liberal, it's not my fault and the world owes me type of people.
Posted by Diane, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 18, 2012 at 7:56 pm
@Catherine - opinions are not the same as factual statements. You clearly feel you have had negative experiences with some Blackhawk residents and have globalized that experience to feel this represents the "typical Blackhawk mother." That's your opinion.
Shall we return to the reason for the thread now? A mother neglected her infant children by leaving them in a car while she went shopping. It was a horribly irresponsible thing to do - regardless of where she lives. Period.
Posted by Catherine, a resident of the Danville neighborhood, on Feb 19, 2012 at 1:03 pm
@ Diane - Clearly you really are not capable of comprehending what you read, so obviously I am wasting my time on a very uneducated person. Apparently you think a Blackhawk mother making the statement, "I paid more so I should get top choice" is my opinion, huh? It also directly relates to the story as many Blackhawk mothers think it is all about them and not their families. Enjoy your life with your head in the sand as you are a waste of my time!
Posted by Truth, a resident of the Blackhawk neighborhood, on Feb 19, 2012 at 6:11 pm
Mothers from Blackhawk have so much money that they can just have their husbands buy them new children for Christmas. Honestly, good parenting is more prevalent in Blackhawk because we have more money and are of a higher socio-economic class. With more money and class we have the power to buy our children the social skills they need to milk the system and enslave the world of working class sheeple.
Posted by Douglas, a resident of the Blackhawk neighborhood, on Feb 19, 2012 at 8:04 pm
Wow! All you women need to get a grip. And Truth, are you really that obnoxious or do you just have a very dry sense of humor? This woman broke the law, endangered her children (doesn't matter if biological or adopted), and should be put in jail, period!
Posted by Mom of twins, a resident of the Alamo neighborhood, on Feb 22, 2012 at 8:33 am
I have twins (who are now Teenagers). It was extremely difficult to go many places alone with twin babies as there are many things working against a Mom (babies on different nap schedules, diaper blowouts, tired Mom, postpartum depression, etc.), but I NEVER would have left my babies in the car even if I just had to drop off a package in the Post Office or pick up a food item at the grocery store. All of us Mom's (and Dad's) can remember incidences of "close calls" with our children but they weren't reckless or intentional acts. I feel very sorry for this Mother's lack of good judgement and am thankful that folks are looking out for children (and pets) who are in danger. The lesson that this mother is facing will not be forgotten and hopefully others will think twice before shopping, possibly thinking, "this will just take a minute."